This Children's Grief Awareness Week, Feather & Down is proud to partner with Grief Encounter, a charity dedicated to supporting bereaved children, young people, and their families. Grief Encounter aims to ensure that no child grieves alone, by providing hope and healing after the death of someone close. The charity also run a ‘Sleep Service’ to help bereaved families reduce sleep disturbances and to better cope with the emotional and physical challenges of grief.

Studies have shown that as many as 91% of individuals experiencing grief report sleep problems. 46% percent say they have trouble sleeping, specifically due to their grief, at least three times per week.

We had the opportunity to speak with Nicky Hitchcock, Head of Clinical Services at Grief Encounter and qualified therapist, about the crucial role of good sleep in the grieving process and practical steps families can take to improve their sleep routines. 

The Impact of Grief on Sleep 

“Grief can be exhausting and often disrupts sleep patterns for the whole family," says Nicky Hitchcock. "For children and young people, the loss they experience affects all aspects of their lives, including their sleep. By helping them improve their sleep, we can make them feel more resilient and better able to cope amidst the chaos of grief." 

Tips for Better Sleep During Grief 

Normalize Sleep Disruption 

It's common for grief to disrupt sleep. Children and young people might need more sleep but still wake up feeling tired. Setting aside restful times during the day can help, but make sure these periods are not too late to avoid further disrupting bedtime. 

Address Bedtime Fears 

Grief can amplify fears, especially at night. Children might worry that someone else close to them will die. Offering reassurance, listening to their fears, and providing age-appropriate answers can help. Creating a worry jar, where concerns are written down and stored for later discussion, can also be beneficial. 

Guatemalan Worry Dolls can be another comforting tool. Children can whisper their worries to these tiny dolls before sleep and leave them under their pillow. Parents can support by asking how the worry dolls are doing and if they need help addressing any worries. 

Create a Cosy Corner 

A cosy corner for relaxation before bed can help children feel comforted and secure. Consider all five senses: 

• Touch: Include warm, soft, and comforting toys and fabrics. 

• Smell: Use lavender or other relaxing scents to encourage deep, relaxing breaths. You might like to try the Sweet Dreams Pillow Spray by Feather & Down.

• Taste: Offer a warm, relaxing drink, avoiding sugary beverages. 

• Sound: Use soothing background noise to distract from any nighttime sounds that might increase anxiety. 

• Sight: Fear of the dark can increase after bereavement. A gentle nightlight can provide comfort and reduce anxiety. 

Supporting the Whole Family 

The most important thing is to let children know you're there for them, listening to their fears and offering reassurance when needed. It's essential to remember that as a parent or caregiver, you are also grieving. Including these tips in your own self-care and bedtime routine can make it easier to support your children through their grief. 

By partnering with Grief Encounter, we hope to bring comfort and rest to those dealing with the profound impact of loss. To learn more or donate, please visit www.griefencounter.org.uk